I fell short of my recent goal of posting every day of my vacation last week. I missed the last 3 days. But those last 3 days were hot and sunny and I was busy making memories with my kids. And then crashing hard at night (when laundry didn’t beckon). So while I didn’t accomplish what I set out to do, I did recognize that goals need to be tempered by what is truly at stake.
I could have half-assed writing some posts when I was half asleep, but I didn’t. I could have made my kids wait, sweating off their sunscreen, while I proofed and added hyperlinks and then spent the next half hour after posting furiously refreshing my stats page to see how many views I was getting. But I didn’t.
And now I’ve gotten into the habit of posting more regularly (though not daily), and that is an improvement from where I started.
I have a mantra now. “Everything is an opportunity.” I feel pretty goofy, the last couple of days, reciting that in my head as I plod along, but it is true. I have to believe it to be true. Disappointment, especially in myself, is waiting at every turn. IF I choose to call it that. Simply changing my vocabulary is one step towards reframing any “issue” or “problem.” I didn’t post every day, like I wanted. I can be disappointed or I can be glad that I gave myself the opportunity to see what kind of posting schedule really works best for me, taking into consideration that I don’t get paid to do this and can’t dedicate the kind of time I do to paying gigs.
So, baby steps. Ironically, I realize I have to start taking them just when I look around to see that my babies are no more. There is a five-and-a-half year old and a three-year old living in our house. They are galloping through life, hurling unplanned challenges in my direction. I can be derailed, or I can look for the opportunities. It’s been challenging, but I’m forcing myself to do the latter.
Goals are good, if they lead to a better, sustainable version of you. When I discovered I hadn’t beaten myself up by missing my writing goal, that was a success. Not one that I planned, but one I can build on.
How are you dealing with curveballs after you put a plan in motion? Can they be redefined as opportunities?