I’ve gleaned from too many chirpy women’s magazine articles that I should publicize my goals. Perhaps a lot of folks in my social media circles learned that too because in recent years I noticed a marked uptick in people being very forthcoming in their fitness, nutrition, writing and abstinence (mostly from foodstuffs) goals. And it annoyed me. Really. I don’t want to know that you racked up so many miles on a run, or ticked off more poundage lost at a weigh-in. I don’t know how I should feel to read that it’s “Day Whatever” of a cleanse or a new eating regimen. And I have to say, if anyone is marking time by sobriety, it is notably absent from my timeline. Which has made me wonder – if something is TRULY at stake here, isn’t it better to be on the DL?
Yes. But no. Back to those women’s magazine articles. The point of going public with one’s intentions is that it holds you more accountable. It’s rarely enough, it seems, for women in particular to only care what WE ourselves want for ourselves. We have to announce it to make it count. We have to make sure we aren’t letting our audience down, once we’ve promised to achieve something. It rankles me, to feel that this advice is pretty much ONLY found in articles geared for women. I would love to hear from any guys out there: are you being offered this same advice?
As much as it needles me that women have to be encouraged to announce their goals in order to be goaded to achieving them, it is actually kind of sort of maybe probably true.
I noticed how much support people were getting when they gave updates on their progress. And I found myself cheerleading along, without irony. Like, wow – look – they’re doing it! They’re letting their guard down and they’re sharing their success. And not in a humble-brag way, but in an honest “Look Ma, I did it!” kind of inclusive joy.
My intention is to post every day of my vacation. Today is Day One. And this is my post.